Karma Cherry Picking ;)

It is funny how twisted reality has gotten in recent years.

Will Smith slaps Chris Rock in the face at the Oscars. And there is a major outcry about Will Smith’s reaction to Chris Rock’s perfidious joke about Jada Pinkett-Smith’s medical condition.

Please don’t get me wrong: I don’t condone violence. Will Smith’s reaction was plainly wrong.

However, first of all, it was a re-action. A re-action to verbal violence that preceded that re-action. I believe I would have re-acted differently but still, it does not change the fact that Chris Rock was verbally violent.

You can make fun of how a person acts. You can make fun of what a person believes or says. However, imho, you cannot make fun of the results of someone’s medical condition. It is like making fun of a person with a disability. And truly civilised people would never allow themselves to do that. It’s just like racism ✌️🏾

So, secondly, when I say reality has gotten twisted, I am not talking about people being outraged by Will Smith’s reaction. I am talking about:

Chris Rock also owns an apology to Jada Pinkett-Smith!

But I haven’t heard anybody talk about this yet.

I personally think Will Smith should have kept quiet and just have gotten back to Chris Rock during his Oscar winning speech. With style!

But sometimes emotions take over.

What I can relate to is how it feels like when you or your loved ones are being attacked or threatened by an ignorant person.

In the past – until just recently – I would also either re-act… or my coping mechanism kicked in: Being nice… hoping that things will get better eventually 🙏🏽

But sometimes things do not settle through being nice. Some people do not understand the language of love, respect and deescalation.

And this incident made me think how I want to handle such situations in the future.

Definitely, I’m not gonna be nice any longer 😉

A wise guy once said: “However powerful you are, don’t pick a fight with someone who doesn’t have anything to lose.”

And I feel at the point in my life where I have nothing to lose. I mean, what do I still have to lose? Everything that was dear to me was taken away from me. And mostly either because of projections, ignorance, unconscious bias or plain racism. And similar to Will Smith, I have in certain situations re-acted in the past as well (though not physically but verbally – with my perception of the truth that some people call more lethal than any physical assult). And the result was: I weakened myself. I gave these people the fuel they needed to gaslight – so they could twist reality and divert from the facts and the truth – that my false action was no action… it was a re-action!

So, what I’ve learned recently (and I’m slowly getting better at) is: Not to re-act. Not to let people say or do whatever they like with me or my loved ones but also not to re-act. I’m not perfect yet, however, I’m on a good path.

And I also learned that I don’t need to act or re-act anyway.

I mean, if I need to defend myself, I will – be assured. And I usually am lucky enough to have quite a few trumps in my hand.

But when I see the other side creating seriously bad karma for themselves, there is really nothing I need to do… life eventually WILL take care of it…

I mean, either you “believe in spirituality” or you don’t, but cherry picking doesn’t work in that realm.

Apart from the fact that, most superficially spiritual people don’t really get one thing right: There is no “believe” in spirituality. Spiritually IS… or IS not (if you don’t believe in it 😳 – sounds paradox, I know)

So IS karma… and it’s coming back to you… be assured. I’m sorry, don’t be mad at me, I didn’t make the rules 🤷🏽

Karma cherry picking 😂 In the past I was so self righteous, arrogant and ignorant to believe that the laws don’t apply to me and that I can get away with it 🤣

It’s like those people who believe in god, and seriously believe they can trick “him” 🤷🏽🤣 You can only trick yourself 😉

They say “ignorance is a bliss”… no, actually it is not… it’s more like a fatal disease growing slowly and unnoticed inside of you as you keep ignoring the signs – just to make yourself feel good about yourself.

Believe me, I know what I’m talking about: The price of self righteousness, arrogance and ignorance is really high… eventually.

But the true problem was: Although deep inside I knew the truth, while I was ignorant, I didn’t want to believe I was 🤣



Friday two weeks ago I had one of the most beautiful days of my life. I am really grateful for the people who were present and especially thankful to the one who allowed that day to take place and be so special.

It felt like the war I had experienced inside finally came to an end.

And then a few days later a real war on the outside started. And as for many, it was really hard for me to accept.

War is always wrong, yet often we do not choose to go to war. Sometimes it seems to be inevitable from one side or both. Sometimes we feel like we have to react, even if one or both of sides do not necessarily want it, yet, they do not see another solution. Sometimes there is a misunderstanding and sometimes it’s not but just a very different perspectives of reality where both sides believe they need to defend themselves and what is precious to them.

The binary concept of good and bad, right and wrong is just an illusion.

There is only different perceptions, perspectives, believes and interests that eventually lead to certain actions.

That doesn’t mean, there’s no borderline of what is okay and what is not.

I’m just saying that the concepts that most people believe in is that in every story there’s a good person and there is the bad person. Yet, that the storyline is ever that obvious is just an illusion (The famous Tao sign of yin yang also symbolises what I am talking about). However, there are misguided people. And one of them is threatening the world at the moment.

I have been misguided myself multiple times in my life and made mistakes beyond repair. And I have to live with the consequences. This is also one way to understand karma.

The only thing I can say today is that when I am in a position of power I need to be very careful with that power. I need to be humble and self-aware. What personally helps me is that I try to be true to myself and get an outside perspective of people who have a truly pure heart and no vested interest. And this is sometimes really hard to find. I experienced again and again that there are even people are very close to me that want to kinda control who I am, somehow seek for my dependency, or are simply jealous of my good fortune. The problem with counsellors and consultants often is that they often also have a vested interest (influence or profit).

That’s why I’m happy that I learned how to use the ability to connect to the source and have a different understanding. Yet, also my ego has a vested interest 🤣 And often it is hard to tell if you’re connected to the source or the ego 😉

Yet, deep inside you always know what is true or to do.

Anyway, it is very sad to see when peoples and individuals get to the point where there is no return. They used to be brothers or lovers or even family.

And at some stage it get’s to the point:

We also used to be friends and more than anything, I truely miss our friendship.